Hurt Is Due Self-Identification
Sat discusses how to let go of attachments and self-identification.
After the broadcast of a livestream meditation, Sat invites everyone to ask questions. The quote in the livestream meditation was from the Reno Center meeting on October 4th, 2020. In that meeting, they had discussed question 34 of Most Precious, Q34: “How can one be in the world but not of it?” A: “see with a single eye!”:
“Seeing with a single eye, the physical eyes, there are two of them and they are meant to cooperate with the senses, or the physical realms and bring information and the sight, so that the mind can process it. When it says ‘single eye’ it is really talking about when an aspirant is ripened enough to symbolically shut the two eyes by realizing what is real, what is not, what is temporary, what is not, and see through the lens of wisdom rather than ignorance and duality, and that needs all the tools we have. It needs Omnipresent, it needs Stop, Stay and all the wisdom to train the attention to be given to the eye of wisdom, more than the physical eyes.” Sat, Oct 4, 2020.
The following discussion ensues:
Question: During the meditation, You were talking about what is “permanent” and what is “temporary,” and I was thinking that one of the elements that keep me, and maybe other people too, from letting go of the temporary is attachment, like being a mother. For example, we are attached to our child; we even get attached to our guru, to our teacher. We have this instinct and this love that has a string of attachment to it. If it wasn't there, it would have been a lot easier to differentiate between temporary and …. [permanent].
Sat: Listen, it might be too deep, but just listen. We can call it attachment, and that would be okay and it is true. But really, you are attached to yourself, to Nilu; as everybody is attached to their own form. The reason we are not hurt as much when we hear some other person's child is not doing well [as opposed to our own], you can call it attachment, I say “self love” because we hurt more. When we see something in our own life, we hurt more, and in the appearance that is an attachment. But it is nice to know the roots of it, [which] is self-identification with the body that is temporary and we want it to stay forever. [The roots are] the thoughts that bring and gather information that sometimes annoy us and we want to run away from them and sometimes get attached to the good ones. So, have this side. This is the ordinary way of living. We get attached to our house more than our neighbor's house but it is really because it hurts when something happens in our house where the other one doesn't. It is all about the self. Okay? But it is the small self.
Now, what [is meant in the quote when it] was saying “eternal,” is when you start seeing that you are not what you thought yourself to be. [At that time] you don't even have to worry about attachment; they become much, much less important, because there is not that small self that wants to survive. Do you understand what I am saying?
So, the attachment which we call “attachment” means self-love and in my opinion, [it] begins to lessen, because now you are identifying with something eternal. Why should you worry about something that is just irrelevant? And, if we really contemplate on every role that we play, we'll find out that it has something to do with the self. Even those people that work in the office, if something happens to their [own] work, it shakes the identification with the self; it is insecurity. But if it happens to one of their colleagues, it is not important. Why? Because we have become individuals and it hurts.
Question: Things are temporary, but as long as we are in the body, they still have a duration from A to B. Even if we know they are temporary, to some extent still it hurts. What can we do about that?
Sat: The solution is the same. The people that are realized still live in the body as long as they are supposed to. The solution for not hurting as much is what you are doing now. Say you have a situation in your home that you don't know what to do with. The more you identify with the individuality, yourself [the small self], the more you hurt from the situation. The less you feel like this is personal or you have an expansion of consciousness where you have enough contentment, [the less you hurt] even though the situation is not good.
So, no matter how you look at it, the solution is to release the chain, and you have seen it in your own life; you are in the same situation now as you were in San Jose; what has changed? You have changed. Does that satisfy you?
May 18, 2022
After the livestream